January 5, 2024 – Rev. Rebecca Pike
Did you make a New Year’s Resolution to begin 2024?
It is common for New Year’s resolutions to revolve around things we know we should do anyway, such as losing weight, eating more vegetables, exercising every day, having good posture, or living a life that fosters well-being.
Upon reflection this year, I have decided not to make any resolutions. The fact is, I often cannot keep those resolutions past the first few months of the year, so I fail them every year. How about you?
This year, I have decided to set intentions for myself and be aware of changing them as I grow and journey through this year.
When you set an intention, the idea is to manifest something that you want to do. It is a call to action and marks the beginning of a dream or desire. Intentions are about the longings; intentions can be related to relationships, love, self-improvement, or career and affect our emotional, physical, or psychological selves. An intention is a positive call to action about something you want to do rather than something you don’t want to do but feel that you “should.”
Setting an intention is about giving direction or meaning to our lives. It also could mean changing an attitude about something to transform or change. The nice thing about setting intentions is that you can set them daily, weekly, or monthly. Unlike New Year’s resolutions, initiating changes to be kept year-round is unnecessary.
Here are some tips for setting intentions:
- Make a list of your intentions. In a journal or on a piece of paper, write: “My intention is …”
Add the date you are making the intention as well.
- Make a list of what you want to do or accomplish. Be specific. Use empowering words and thoughts. Avoid words such as “should,” “always,” “must,” or “never.”
- Commit to your intentions. Do something that shows your commitment to your intention. For example, if you want to start eating more vegetables, prepare vegetables for all three meals.
- Think positive thoughts about your intention and put your intention out into the universe. Share your intention with others, as this deepens your commitment and holds you accountable for your intention. It also makes it easier for you to manifest.
- When thinking about your intentions, focus on looking forward rather than backward.
The idea is that thoughts can and do affect physical reality … With every thought, we can transform ourselves and others. Intentions set for us, and the world can be a powerful way to initiate transformation and change.
What are your intentions for 2024?
September 26, 2023 – Rev. Pamela
The return of the fall has been very busy!
The season of fall for many is often a time of sorting things. We clean out our closets and make room for
warmer clothes; our children clean out their backpacks to make room for new school supplies. We return to the workplace after summer vacation with firmer schedules and earlier bedtimes. Many of us sort and reorganize our closets, pantries, sheds, garages, etc. in anticipation of the cooler days and busier schedules of the fall season.
Sorting also happens within our churches and congregations during the fall. We may envision exciting pathways for our children, youth and young adults, faith groups, committees and church board. Our journey with Jesus in our own lives may take on a new path as we focus on daily scripture reading or prayer and meditation. We may also join a group within our faith community for fellowship and friendship. During this time of year we may simply choose to slow down, breathe deeply and enjoy the beauty and color of God’s world through nature hiking and walks.
Sorting helps all of us set priorities. How are we as individuals and as a congregation to minister in the world that we live? How are we to live the gospel message within the faith community of which we are called and minister to our neighbors close and far?
Sorting is good. Sorting is necessary. It helps rid ourselves of clutter and focus on things we may be neglecting or that are important which we have put on the “back burner.” Sorting can help us to refocus and realize trivial matters are just that….. trivial…..both in our church and family life. Sorting helps us bring our priorities to the forefront of our daily living.
At this time of year we also turn our thoughts to Thanksgiving. What is it in your life that you give God thanks? How can your abundance be turned into kindness and good deeds towards others?
There are many amongst us at this time of year who are lonely, who need God’s love and healing touch in an abundance of ways. Maybe it is a visit, an invitation to a home cooked meal, or even something as simple as a hug or a phone call that could be your Thanksgiving to others. I am a firm believer that no matter who you are or what you have been through in life….no matter where you live or what road you have travelled….YOU are invited by a loving God to make a difference and to bring God’s unconditional love and grace to others.
As you sort through your “things,” may you be blessed in the time and space that is yours.
Rev. Pamela
This was a worship space I created in our home during the “COVID Shut Down.” This room was a storage room in our basement. It took a few days, with some help from my husband Scott, yet after sorting and cleaning, this beautiful serene worship space was created out of a very small, messy, overfilled storage room in our house. Sorting and decluttering can bring forth serenity, beauty and peace!
February 8, 2022 – Rev. Ettie
“No Agenda – A Serendipitous Moment!”
Have you ever had a day when suddenly your schedule for the day is at a hault? I do not mean those days when the world seems to stand still when you hear sad news or when life is disrupted, and you are prevented from fulfilling your obligations. I am referring to those days when there is an interruption to our daily routine that is welcomed. I call those no “agenda days” – times that can be the most relaxing or productive – depending on your disposition at the time. Some “no agenda” days can be a snow day when you are forced to stay indoors until the storm passes – I like to catch up on a book I am reading, try that new recipe I’ve been looking at for ages, or just spending time “hanging out” with a family member or friend.
One such day came my way a few weeks ago during a windstorm – flights could not arrive nor depart. They were cancelled – a blessing for my daughter and me. She who was all prepared for her departure – somewhat of an anomaly in our household where last-minute luggage packing in normative. Yes, that day, we were all prepared when the flight was cancelled. Smiles that could not be held back broke on our faces as we prepared for a relaxing “pyjama” day – most welcomed when they come as surprises like that – it is as though you are given that extra breath you longed for while scrambling to pack on time – the extra moments for those cups of tea you did not quite finish – and moments to just sit and bask in the joy of having “no agenda” – of knowing what serendipity feels like. The next time such an unexpected moment happens your way, I hope the stars have aligned so that agendas can be set aside and you can embrace the moment serendipitously. I look forward to such moments just as stargazers look for changes in the sky. Like a blue moon – they happen infrequently – Enjoy!
Peace, health, love
Rev. Ettie
June 24, 2021 – Rev. Rebecca
Since my graduation in April, I have been asked more times than I can count, “how does it feel to be done?”. My answer at first was that it feels nice but that I was not done until my Commissioning. As many of you know, my Commissioning took place on May 16, and it was a beautiful day filled with the Spirit and love. Again, people asked, “how does it feel?”, still I felt the same for the most part.
In these past months, I have achieved goals I have been working towards for years now. I cannot express fully the gratitude I have for all the support I have received over my studies and journey to Ministry. I know that every time someone asks me some version of “how does it feel?” they express happiness and joy with me. Yet, I have been struggling to find the words for how it feels.
While I was camping last week with my family, this kept coming to my mind, as this was the first real break from work and school jointly I have had in numerous years. Here is the answer that I have come with how it feels to complete school and enter Ministry with the United Church of Canada in an official capacity.
It feels exciting. It feels like the deep breath of fresh air you take when you get out of the city and into the wood. It feels refreshing and wonderful, yet there is a part that is also sad to be done. There is change moving into a reality where I am no longer a student; I have been a student of some form since I was five years old. I know that there is always more to learn, but the term student is no longer one identify with for the present time.
There is a change in who I am. While I am becoming who I feel called to be, it does not remove the fact that change is hard. Change comes with the loss of the way some things have been, with finding new ways to connect or maintain connections with those I have studied and journeyed with. We can no longer rely on seeing it other in class each year or having assignments or readings to message about. As we work in different ministry roles are relationships are developing in new ways.
So, while focusing on the excitement and joy I feel in entering Ministry with The United Church of Canada, I have also felt fear and grief. It has been a reminder that even the most exciting events in our life that bring us all we desire can also bring sadness or uncertainty.
I am grateful to be surrounded by such a supportive community that I feel I can share this with to remind us all that it is okay to feel multiple emotions at any given time. It is okay to feel unsure about change while also being excited about what lies ahead.
My final thought is that as you interact with those around you who are ending one phase of a journey and beginning another, remember that while it may be a positive change, they may also be experiencing complex feelings of loss or change. Please encourage them to embrace the joy and the loss, to know that life is filled with both always!
May 12, 2021 – Rev. Pamela
On my first pastoral charge in Hillview I met a faith-filled woman. Her name was Ollie. Ollie was known as Aunt Ollie in the community. She lived in a very small bungalow down by the ocean’s edge. I loved Ollie and she really showed me the power of prayer. You see when I visited her we would gather at her kitchen table. I would make a cup of tea for both of us and assembled a few tea buns or whatever she had in the cupboard. Ollie was in her late 90’s and she lived alone.
When our visits finished we would have prayer. On my first visit when I asked Ollie, “would you like to pray?,” she immediately fell to her knees in the middle of her kitchen and placed her hands together, waiting for me to begin. The only other person I had seen pray like this was my grandmother who lived with us when I was growing up. In the night I would peek into her room and she was often there by her bedside, praying on her knees. She too was a faith-filled woman.
When Ollie first fell to her knees in the middle of her kitchen to pray I was shocked and also humbled. Tears welled up in my eyes. This was a holy moment and this was holy ground. I felt she should be the one guiding prayer not me.
Prayer is powerful. And prayer can happen in many ways. These days I often talk to God when I am out on my daily walk. While receiving spiritual counseling some time ago from a Roman Catholic sister she would say to me, “if you can’t handle it yourself then give it to God.” That “advice” really changed my life.
Now when I am overwhelmed, when I am stressed to the limit, when my mental health is in the trenches I talk to God and give my thoughts to her. For me it’s a signal that I don’t have to carry the weight and the load of this life on my own. In the moment of giving my pain to God, I physically imagine myself taking my burden and giving it to God, knowing that my burden is physically shared. It’s powerful and healing.
There have been many moments of deep prayer for me over this past year of pandemic. I am sure there have been for all of you. We have all been through so much and yet “it’s” not over yet. I am living in hope though that the warmth of summer, the toil of my garden, a few sails out the bay and some fun dips in Gambo Pond will provide some relief in the summer months. Our hearts need a time of healing!
If life is really heavy I invite you to have a conversation with our Creator. Imagine physically giving over your worries and burdens to God. It may not make them go away completely however I guarantee you that the weight of the load will be lighter. We are never alone.
May God bless all of you.
Here’s praying that by the fall we will be able to gather in groups again and share hugs and conversation over coffee and treats!
March 16th, 2021 – Rev. Ettie
“Forgiveness – Kindness”
Several mornings ago, I was lying awake thinking about ‘kindness” and the call for kindness in our community today in the midst of coronavirus. To be truthful, I was pondering as we promote kindness; are we repressing the feeling some have to put-down, shame or otherwise treat meanly those whose actions do not promote a safe community? My mind went to formulating questions: “Can forcing kindness be akin to bullying?” and “Where do those unresolved feelings go if not addressed?” My mind chose not to go down that path, it did, however, consider the scenario of parents who sometimes compel one sibling to apologize to another for an unkind action (before they may be ready to do so). Under duress the sibling apologises yet harbours resentment and anger often looking for an opportune time for retribution. “Where do unresolved feelings go without time to reason the ethic of the situation out and allow expression through a positive action?” was another question that came to mind.
The word forgiveness had not entered my mind.
Next, the cat indicated it was breakfast time – that got me out of bed – being up (though early) I decided to check my email. I checked a posting on Facebook by a friend – made a brief comment – I am not inclined to make lengthy comments or comments at all on Facebook. I opened the latest United Church E-ssentials and was drawn to a Lenten study which I perused. Then I saw a blog published by Marie-Claude Manga, with whom I served as a member of our United Church’s Intercultural Task Group. The word “Forgiveness” in the title captured my attention. As I read on my mind began to put side-by-side my thoughts on kindness and Marie-Claude’s on forgiveness.
I continued reading Marie-Claude’s blog and was inspired by its sincerity and the way its truth eased the tension I was sensing around the one sidedness of promoting kindness. Suddenly, it occurred to me that perhaps our mantra might be forgiveness and kindness. Forgiveness for those who inadvertently or deliberately break guidelines putting self and others at risk for infection and kindness for all.
Wakeful now and inspired my Marie-Claude sharing part of her story; I thank the Spirit for leading me to Marie-Claude’s inspiring blog and thank her for sharing it. It is with those thoughts in mind that I share my thoughts on ‘kindness’ with you today and I share Marie Claude’s blog as an example of patience and lived forgiveness.
Forgiveness as a Way of Life
The Rev. Marie-Claude Manga
reflects on her ministry and work as an ordained Black woman with The United Church of Canada
Published On: February 22, 2021
This blog post is part of our series for Black History Month 2021.
Credit: Courtesy of Marie-Claude Manga
I grew up in a family of eight: four boys and four girls. I am the second among the siblings and the eldest daughter. My father has always encouraged the education of his children, boys and girls, giving them an equal chance. To encourage me in my education, he kept telling me I was a whole person and that nothing and no one had the power to stop me in my momentum. Any occasion was propitious for my parents to expose me to different challenges. Dad would call me to let me listen to a female voice on the radio and tell me I could also accomplish great things such as becoming a female journalist.
Baptized by my grandfather, who was a Baptist pastor, my parents did not hesitate to send me to a boarding school run by Catholic nuns to acquire a “good” education. At the Catholic school, I was required to be baptized a second time. It did not shock my parents who encouraged me because, for them, God had no preference for one religion over another.
It is with those values that I found myself in Canada with my four-year-old daughter to continue my education in social work. I was working as a social worker when I was called to serve God. After that, the challenges came one after the other.
I remember the challenges and situations that I faced in my ministry as a Black woman and French-speaking pastor in an Anglophone majority and rural context that I have never known previously. I remember the day I introduced myself to the board of a church. The first question was, “What are you doing here?” As I was answering with my limited English, one of the board members looked at me with disdain and said loudly, without restraint, “I do not know what we have done to God to deserve this!”
I remember the evening when I went to the bedside of a parishioner. Lying on his bed, the man was following the World Vision show. I entered the room and said hello. As an answer, he raised the volume to draw my attention to the screen. After several minutes, he said, “What are you doing here? Do you visit me because of my money?”
I said, “No, I’m not interested in your money. I am here as your pastor. Actually, I have been appointed as the pastor of the church you belong to.” He looked at me and laughed. His wife was shocked and embarrassed, but I stopped her from intervening. In the evening, she called me to apologize. I took time to listen as I wanted to reassure her.
The Sunday that followed, I visited this brother and I realized that his health was deteriorating. I continued to visit every two days. For nearly three weeks, I prayed and sang with his wife while the husband was watching television. He wanted nothing from me but I kept going to visit. One Sunday, I brought communion to the nursing home and I offered it to him. Then he asked me to sing a specific hymn before sharing communion. As you can imagine, I felt blessed.
The following visit, I found him alone and hungry. His wife, who usually fed him, was late. The staff had resigned since he treated them unkindly. He was trying to eat but could not. Standing near the bed, I watched a few minutes while he smeared his face with food. I approached the bed and I stretched out my hand without saying a word. He put the fork in my hand without being asked and mostly without resistance. It was a highlight for both of us through our eyes, our hearts, and our hands. I started to wipe his face and I fed him slowly. While I fed him, I remembered the biblical passage in which Christ tells us, “I was sick and you visited me…” How could I remain indifferent to this helpless man when God gave me the opportunity to consolidate our relationship and take care of his beloved son?
I remember the day of the funeral of this brother in Christ. At the cemetery, as I proclaimed praise before the funeral, I bent to make the sign of the cross on the casket just as an order was given by someone to lower the coffin. I got back up in time to avoid falling down on the coffin. Outraged, the widow asked the lowering of the coffin to be stopped so that I could continue the service. Two weeks later, she invited me to her home for coffee and asked, “How do you do it?”
Regardless whom we are within Christ’s Church, we are called to minister to his body by following his pathways with the presence of the Holy Spirit as promised. As Christ’s disciples, forgiveness is not an alternative, rather an obligation, a way of living. If we are wondering how we can forgive those who hurt us, let us always keep in mind the words from the Lord’s Prayer, taught to us by Christ himself: “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who have trespassed against us.” Of course, I don’t forget, but I forgive.
By doing so, we will be the light carriers to enlighten the world about the love that we enjoy from God, regardless of our gender identity, race, age, sexuality, class, ability, language, and so on. That’s why I refused to abandon my call. I refused to pay attention to all the wickedness and the misunderstandings I was facing. Up until today, I can’t explain why I did not stumble and flee. Nevertheless, I am certain that the assurance within me when I was acting as a servant of God to the people of God, came from the Holy Spirit. All my provision is placed on this table of which David speaks in Psalm 23:5. On that table I find love, forgiveness offered and received, benevolence, reconciliation, understanding and so on. Unconsciously, I helped myself from this table whenever I needed it.
—The Rev. Marie-Claude Manga works as a social worker and minister. She is on the executive board of La Table des ministères en français and sits on the executive of the Nakonha:ka Regional Council. This is an excerpt from her presentation on the 80th anniversary of Lydia Gruchy’s ordination,and of the life and work of ordained women within the United Church.
December 23rd, 2020 – Rev. Ettie
For my blog this time around I invited a guest blogger whose blog I read a few weeks ago before the second waves of lock-downs began to happen. Alison, my daughter writes from the perspective of a different generation from mine. From that experience she shares ways to cope with restrictions and lock-down. I hope there will be some meaning in her piece for you.
Hello Friends,
My mother invited me to share some insights I have gained during lock-down from the perspective and experience od someone born in the ‘80s and of where I live. I am glad to do so and I hope you will find some of the ways I found useful helpful too.
Five ways that can help shift perspective during a lockdown
Who would have thought on New Year’s eve 2020, the year’s must have fashion accessory would be a trendy face mask and social distancing air would include air hugs to your friends and family, not just reserved for doomsday preppers and light house keepers.
Transition hasn’t been easy for many, including myself. For me, what really brought it home is the fact that I may not see home very soon. I am a Canadian living, working, and writing in the UK. While I have been here for nearly three years I have never missed a lengthy annual pilgrimage home to family, friends, and the creature comforts of the Great White North. However, at this point in time, I have no idea when I may see my East Coast Island again.
The majority of us have been there, experiencing some version of the ebbs and flows of this pandemic: comfort eating, TV binging, furlough merlot, crying, frustration, and sometimes even anger. That’s okay. It is absolutely normal to have those moments and to let them happen; it is healthy…as along as we don’t stay in that negative or overwhelming headspace for prolonged periods of time. As we begin to transition into the cooler months, which have many concerned about a possible second lockdown, I would like to share with you five things I have discovered that help me reflect, refocus, gain a brighter perspective, and a more overall positive way to work through this pandemic.
Fresh Air
It sounds so simple, and you may roll your eyes and think “isn’t this common sense?” Maybe so, but even being an absolute lover of nature, there were days when I just couldn’t be bothered to get up and get outside. After day in and day out of the same old routine, we can sink into a stale mind-set which leads to letting good, enjoyable habits slip.
It wasn’t until I had to give myself a proper pep talk and virtually forced myself to set my feet out the door, that I suddenly remembered how good it felt gulping back big breaths of fresh air. It felt so liberating, invigorating and soothing. Even if you can’t go outside, open the windows for a little bit and let the fresh air fill your lungs and space. Not only is it meant to help you sleep better, (hello COVID insomnia, my new friend) but in the moment it can be a wholly energizing flip of the switch and can be a motivator to do something creative or productive. So many times, just opening my windows has made me instantly feel lighter and brighter.
Once outdoors, it opens up more activities to enjoy: exercising, exploring new streets or parks, seeing others (the world does still exist!) or getting creative (I love taking photographs of nature). Which leads me to activity number two…
Reading
Reading is another activity that sparks creativity. If you’ve been struggling with feeling hemmed in amongst your four walls, why not try reading a good book? At the moment travel is limited, and when in lockdown it’s virtually non-existent. Books can feed the travel bug in a pinch and it’s not just the world that’s your oyster. Fancy a trip to a new galaxy? Want to live in a mediaeval castle for a day? Or what about deep sea diving? Time and space are endless! When I find a good book, unlike TV where I am still aware of my surroundings, I become fully immersed and can easily get lost for a few hours. Not to mention, with books, all systems are go when it comes to activating your brain, imagination, and giving your eyes a rest from the screens. I love being able to create the world and people I read about in my mind, without having a producer do that for me. If you’re artistic, it might even spawn a creative flow of drawing or painting or even writing yourself – both fun and cathartic!
On the other hand, if you’re into expanding your knowledge, there are countless things you can learn from books. It’s a nice break from the screen too, especially when trying to settle down for the night. All that being said, if you are new to reading or wanting to get back into it, and hour can seem daunting, be patient and give yourself bite sized goals. I started with 10 pages a day and now I am in the realm of “just one more page.” With any habit or hobby, baby steps can make big achievements.
Cooking
The third activity which offers a whole host of benefits is reconnecting with your kitchen. I love baking and cooking, I find it deliciously rewarding. Pre-COVID I was struggling to find the time or energy, after a long day, to come home and cook a nice meal. However, with lockdown and now working from home, I find I have more time and have rekindled my love of finding new or old recipes to make throughout the week. If you only have one day a week to cook make a big batch that will last as leftover for a few days. It can be so satisfying making a yummy, healthy, home-cooked meal. It makes me feel like I’m indulging, and yeah it’s easy, fun and a great form of self-care – nurturing through nourishing.
Another motivation that got me back into the kitchen was that my partner and I were on reduced pay during lockdown, so takeaways had to be limited. So along with the challenge of creating recipes with different measurements and ovens (the adjustment is on-going), I started to try and recreate healthier, more budget friendly, versions of some favourites. Not all of my creations were successful, but trial and error can be yum too!
Don’t forget, sharing is caring. If you are living with a partner, housemates or family, why not take turns making a meal for the household or do it all together? Not only will you get a home-cooked meal but you get help, can have some great conversations and laughs, and feel more connected. So pop on some tunes, dance your way to the kitchen and sing-a-long while you cook for yourself or together!
Movement
As winter approaches in COVID times, finding ways to stay active may seem to be a bit trickier with the weather getting colder and (usually) wetter. Even if you normally love being active, getting cold and drenched to the bone in the name of fitness may not sound appealing. Gyms are open at the moment; however, if they do close again, that can leave options a little slim to none. If you fall under this line of thinking fret not, there are ways to incorporate movement when spending more and more time in one space. If you do have a little money to spend, why not invest in inexpensive equipment such as dumbbells, resistance bands, and more. My partner and I tend to be active people and when the gyms closed we were feeling it. Ultimately, we decided it was worth the investment and bought some equipment. My mother also kindly gifted me some funds for my birthday which I put toward a low-cost, compact, and cheerful exercise bike as she knows how much I love to have cardio in my day (hello, endorphins and good digestion). Before the equipment, and even since, I continue to gravitate to the variety of online workouts that cost nothing yet, they get the heart rate up and the endorphins flowing! Some of my favourite go-to YouTube workouts are Dance Cardio, HIIT, Pilates, yoga, and barre. I especially love the dance cardio, not only does it not feel like a workout but you can sing-a-long and dance to whatever genre you like – it’s like a workout that doesn’t feel like a workout (my favourite kind)!
For those who desire to take it a little slower, there are workouts for those with back or knee injuries. Even if you just putter about the house – stand while you fold the laundry, walking about to water your plants, just moving about no matter how much – can make a huge difference overall. This leads me to my final, but no less important point…
Nurture
One of the best feelings in the world can come from nurturing or taking care of ourselves or another being. It can provide a sense of warmth, purpose and contentment. If you have a pet, spend extra quality time snuggling them, playing with them, and being more present when taking care of them. While my cat is currently residing in Canada, I always found joy making sure she was taken care of and spending time with her. For now, during lockdown, I bought plants to bring nature indoors and to have something to take care of and to focus on. Taking time to water, tend to and feed them as needed brings me great joy and satisfaction. I even bought a beginners houseplant book to learn all the signs of possible problems and what each plant requires, which has me wanting to own new plants and fill our space with greenery. A bonus is that plants help clean your air.
Another important part of life to nurture is our relationships, be it with our-selves, partners, friends or family. Now is a great time to come together and enjoy one another’s company (those in our bubble and others virtually) and have great laughs and meaningful conversations. Life can get busy, and sometimes we can take our loved ones for granted. With so much more time on our hands, now is the perfect time to reconnect or rekindle.
Every week my partner and I Zoom with our families – we prepare quizzes to play with each of our families or we play a beloved family card game, through an app, and have great conversations. We play board games and video chat with friends and currently meet practicing social distancing with one or two local friends. I have reconnected with people I have lost touch with over the years, and seeing familiar faces, it just brings warmth and smiles to this time and reminds us we are in this together.
Make sure you make time for quality time for you too. Like with other relationships, when life gets busy we can forget our wants, needs and goals. When lockdown first started, I took time away to recharge. I took to my journal, I listened to inspiring podcasts, I painted, and I just started to relearn to quiet the noise and listen. I took the time for self-care: staying active, eating healthy, taking free online workshops and courses, and taking bubble baths. I started sipping my tea more slowly while watching the birds and other animals enjoy the bird feeder. All these little things add up – they replenish and restore.
Ultimately, this is a guide not a manual. We each have our own rhythms and know what nurtures us and makes us feel good. The big take away is when in a time of uncertainty and chaos, one of the best things we can do is to slow down, breathe, and find joy in the hobbies we may have let slide or in nurturing habits that make each day a better one. Even if you apply the five minute rule to get started on something you want to do or try, or working daily on trying to find a single bright spot, with time some anxieties and worries may shift to a new, fresher perspective.
November 25th, 2020 – Rev. Pamela
There is a story about a village where all the women washed clothes together down by the river. There came a time when they all acquired washing machines and there was a sudden outbreak of depression. It was not the fault of the washing machines in and of themselves. It was the absence of the time spent doing things together that was the cause…..it was the physical absence of washing clothes together. In essence, it was the absence of community.
In this time of COVID 19 and even much longer before, we as individuals have become so independent.
“We are fine,” we tell ourselves even when in reality we are depressed , we are overwhelmed, we are lonely, and we are hurting. Sometimes we choose to carry our joys and burdens alone and make whatever journey it is independently.
And sometimes the days, weeks and months go by without connecting with friends.
“I am fine, I am fine, I am fine.” It is so easy to say even when it is not true.
We have become so isolated. Over these past months I have attended hundreds of zoom meetings and it just does not fill that void of physically being in the presence of others. In our daily lives we text, or write an email instead of picking up the phone and asking the recipient how they are. Yes, it is quicker and more efficient but it is devoid of relationship and that “personal touch.”
We have become so isolated and it is hard to know how to get back. It is incredibly difficult to even know how to begin to build the kind of relationships our hearts need, especially now in the midst of the pain and weight of a world torn, sick and in chaos. In our current culture especially in the midst of the pandemic, rebuilding and building relationships and community is just not as organic as it once was. It is more work now, but gosh it is soooo worth it!
We each have our own washing machines. We do not depend on each other to do laundry, or cook dinner, or raise babies anymore. We do not really depend on each other for much of anything if we are being honest.
It is clinically documented that being lonely effects the length of our life expectancy. Our longing for connection is LEGIT. It is REAL.
In my work as Spiritual Director at Stella’s Circle I discovered that every single one of us, no matter who we are need community. We need to belong. We need to relate to others. We need to be in relationship. There are those in our community who are aching and lonely. It is community and friendship that helps one to make it through the good and especially bad times. And that is what we are all seeking…relationships and human connection.
Yes, it is a gift to be independent. And each of us should be proud of it. Yet an independent person lives more effectively when that person realizes the value and the importance of opening the door to other good people.
You can do it alone, but you do not have to. Islands are only fun for so long!
There is true magic when we come together and hold hands and hug and share ideas and share stories face to face, in community. There is magic in the struggles, tears and laughter and endless cups of coffee and tea! I would attribute this to the power of God’s Holy Spirit working in and amongst us, holding us together like glue in hard times!
Blessings and peace,
Pamela
October 23rd, 2020 – Rebecca
Story Sharing
Stories are a powerful tool; throughout our lives, it is through stories that we learn whether they are real or imagined. Jesus’ ministry grew significantly out of storytelling. It was through the parable that he taught those that followed him and developed relationships with the disciples. The present society has lost touch with sharing our story. With technology, we often think we are sharing our lives, but this is not true. We get to know other people as we share our past and present in story with them through the stories that make up our lives.
As we age, stories are how we share lessons, experience and how we share our lives with others. The foundation of building a relationship is sharing stories about ourselves with others. Studies suggest that the exchange of stories can increase understanding among diverse cultures and age cohorts and foster a mutual connection. The sharing of a story can be the opening to starting a relationship with others.
Whether they are positive or negative, the stories of our lives make us the unique individuals we are. There is no story a person can share from their lives that anyone else shares identically because no two people have lived the same experience. Yes, there will be similarities in some cases, but every human is unique and precious, as in their story.
I have been thinking about sharing stories or story sharing lately and how it creates a space that allows commonalities and differences to be recognized. Story sharing offers the beginning of a transformation in individuals’ process to know and connect.
There has been the use of story across many organizations. It demonstrates how narratives build trust, cultivate norms, transfer knowledge, and generate emotional connections. Story is the way we come to understand fully another’s lived experience. Our lives are lived through story, and as a result, the narratives we live and share every day are our identity. We are story people.
We make visible what matters most in our lives through the stories we share about our lives. We are trying to create relationships with people. It is done through story sharing and respectful, attentive listening. An inherent part of story sharing is the mutual sharing of values, beliefs and traditions. Jesus, in his ministry, shared his values and beliefs through the parables he told. Jesus is well known because of his parable filled ministry, a ministry that focus on story and people. Two key things that to this day are still in a deeply connected relationship are story and people. They cannot be separated because they are defined by each other. Stories do not exist without people to tell them; people do not know who they are without stories to represent them. This is why interaction is so essential to healthy human relations. We are defined by the stories we share.
Stories are more than books to read to children as they head to bed. Stories are the foundation of each and every individual. I invite you today to reflect on the stories you share. How can you open space for story sharing more in your life, listening to others and sharing your own?
September 25th, 2020 – Rev. Ettie
Mudras
Until October 2019, while preparing for Spiritual Care Week in pre-COVID-19 days when the fundamental imperative to protect your ‘bubble’ and visits to the market-place were less calculated the notion of ‘mudras’ was foreign to me – or so I thought. That is, I was not truly aware that I knew and used mudras. Indeed, it intrigued me that mudras were part of everyday life – some happening as spontaneous gestures.
Mudras, I discovered, like mindfulness (the subject of my last blog) are ancient spiritual practices rooted in faith traditions such as Hinduism and Buddhism.
Unlike me, if you are a practitioner of yoga or some related discipline mudras may not seem unknown to you; or like me, you may discover you have already encountered them in daily life.
For instance you may have noticed persons at meetings pressing the fingers of both hands together in what is known as a natural mudra. During my research on mudras one person shared with me that she makes this gesture at meetings as a way to stay connected and focussed. Notice if you or someone around you does this or something similar at your next virtual, in-person meeting, or family discussion. On the other hand, it may be something you would like to add to your repertoire of ways to sustain yourself during some longer meetings – it may be a practice to embrace to offset zoom-fatigue.
Why not try this simple spontaneous mudra called the Hakini mudra the next time you feel fatigued or restless at a function.
Since that seemingly far away pre COVID-19 time, when the allure of mudras caught my attention, my understanding of mudras and their practice has grown. As indicated earlier, I discovered that while I was not consciously aware of mudras they have been part of my life for some time – at least since the 70’s and 80’s when I was practicing yoga as a fitness exercise. While the instructor reminded participants that the physical activity was a practice to lead to spiritual connectedness, not being so mindful then, I did not make the connection.
Now, with renewed interest in mindfulness it was a delight to discover mudras and even more stimulating to discover I already had some experience with them. For instance another familiar hand gesture from yoga is known as the Gyan mudra – a mudra I recall from personal yoga practice but, did not know its name. This mudra channels energy so that it stays within the body rather than becoming part of your surroundings – it promotes concentration and creativity.
Although there are many mudras, the final one I will share at this time is one we may find helpful in greeting each other during this time of social distancing – actually, another simple gesture with very significant meaning. Namaste – a greeting and departing gesture made by joining your hands in a prayer-like position, in the area of your heart with your thumbs inclined toward your heart as you greet another with a bow. The gesture and the word ‘Namaste’ are respectfully saying “I honour the place in you where the Holy resides” When two persons greet each other in this way – the respect is reciprocal. Perhaps, this is a lovely manner to adopt as a way to greet each other in this time of social distancing.
Namaste
Ettie
July 29th, 2020 – Rev. Pamela
As I was browsing my facebook feed a few weeks ago I found this phenominal paragraph. It touches on so many aspects of how and why we help people, how we invite others into our community, how we draw the circle wide; hospitality if you will.
I have struggled with how to do hospitality throughout ministry until I landed myself a job at Stella’s Circle some years ago. It was then I found true hospitality. The type of hospitality and communion noted by the Dandelion Society.
Being genuine is one of the most important aspects of hostility. We do this well at Gower.
Could we be better?….yes, but all in all, we do it well.
When we invite strangers into our community we do so in a way that is meaningful, genuine and “justice-filled”, no matter who the person is, where they have come from, what they look like or what they have been through.
I have seen this in the interactions with newcomers at Sunday Coffee Hour, those people we host from the Pottle Centre, Stella’s Circle participants who engage with us frequently (many who feel Gower is their faith community) and others who randomly show up on our doorstep from time to time seeking assistance and a listening ear. We genuinely want them to come back and share in the joy and compassion of our community. It is the “what’s ours is theirs” mentality. And those strangers who walk through our doors know when we are being genuine or not.
Genuine Hospitality is about providing a hand up not just a hand out, as Stella Burry so adequately said in her ministry.
As we think about moving back into the sanctuary this fall and being physically together again, there will be visitors and those persons who need our time, concern, attention and help. I do not want to be the church that puts a band aid on their concerns. I want to be the church that welcomes them back and into our faith community. I want to be the church that offers them full communion. I want to be the church that enables them to fully engage and participate in all we do as a community of faith. How we “Draw the Circle Wide” matters and those who come through our doors will feel and know the difference. That is why they keep coming back!
As a faith community in the downtown core of St. John’s I would like us to find more ways to draw the circle wide. I would like the surrounding community to know that we are a church family that cares and provides genuine hospitality. Everyone needs a place to belong and know they are part of something greater than themselves. We all want to belong and know compassionate love.
I challenge you to think about how we as a faith community and you, as a member of the Gower faith community, can draw the circle wider this fall. How can we provide communion to those in our midst?
On a personal note this summer I have been enjoying my garden, sailing the salt waters, reading a few good books, doing some needlework projects, mastering the art of the bbq, enjoying some super rides on our motorcycle and making the trek back and forth to Gambo Pond! I am looking forward to a family trip to Bonavista during my vacation. I hope that you too are finding ways to refresh your heart and soul. If you are facing sickness or any hardships, know that you are cared for and held by God’s love and Spirit.
I do miss our being together!…….hopefully soon…fingers crossed!!
Many blessings,
Pamela
Max enjoying the salty sea!
June 25th, 2020 – Rebecca Pike
Memories of Summer’s Past
As we look towards a summer filled with vacations mainly staying in Newfoundland Labrador, I have found myself reflecting on how trips around this island hold some of my favourite summer memories. As I was growing up, it was a summer tradition to go camping in Terra Nova National Park each Summer. While as I got older every other summer, we would go to Ontario, memories of Terra Nova are some of the best of my life.
Evening walks around the loops looking at the Milkyway with my cousins and friends and sitting with my dad waiting for my sister and mom to finish getting ready for bed in the bathroom watching the shooting stars. There was fun learning about nature and all its richness at the children’s activity center, to wandering up to the store for ice cream with my sister and swimming in Sandy Pond or Crooked Tree Park. Rainy days were filled with adventures to Gander to watch a movie or exploring the communities around Terra Nova all the sights and delicious foods, and nothing beats a BBQ in the park.
Every camping trip included extended family, and it was wonderful to share these times that we look back at fondly now. Of course, everyone grows up, getting the chance to all camp at the same time became harder! While my summers do not include camping with my cousins anymore, myself and parents try to take a short time each year. I started a new tradition to go camping with my friends, to take a weekend and getaway together.
For me, summer and camping go hand in hand! The chance to explore and enjoy the beauty of creation and grow in relationship with those I hold so dearly. I hope that this summer gives you a chance to explore the beauty of Newfoundland Labrador and your relationships!
May 28th, 2020 – Rev. Ettie
Mindfulness
My fascination with mindfulness began years ago when I was first introduced to it as a student. Like civility, (the subject of my first submission for the Minister’s blog) mindfulness has been part of human consciousness in some guise or other for centuries and, in recent years, a present-day topic in many work places. The new nuances of mindfulness have sparked my interest – hence this blog.
As a spiritual practice within many faith traditions, such as Hinduism, Judaism, and Christianity to name but three it was commonly practiced by contemplatives. This early spiritual practice, known as meditation or contemplation had the aim to quiet the mind from everyday activity creating space for peacefulness within and without. The ultimate intention, for many practitioners, was to quiet the mind from everyday distractions – creating space within as part of the quest to know a sense of communion[i] with Creator and creation. Living with “ceaseless praise” as Frances Ridley Havergal writes in her hymn “Take My Life and Let It Be”[ii] is one way of expressing mindfulness in daily living. Experiencing the sense of “mystic sweet communion”[iii] inherent in Jesus’ understanding of his closeness with God when he prays “…as you are in me, [Abba], and I am in you…”[iv]
Today, mindfulness is a spiritual practice within the context of faith communities as well as an everyday practice in the work place. As a practice for relaxation and stress relief mindfulness invites the participant to concentrate on the moment – to let go concern for the past or worry for the future. Listening wholeheartedly while someone shares their story, giving the work place task your undivided attention[v], or carefully following each step of a recipe while making a cake or pastry can be considered ordinary examples of mindfulness.
A simple mindfulness activity that can be incorporated into everyday activities, at home and at work, is to pause in the muck of life and listen to your breath. Find a comfortable position (many choose sitting) breathe in and exhale noticing your breath – is it quick paced or relaxed (notice how you feel in body and mind). Continue with the breathing exercise until you have a sense of relaxation and your breathing has a smooth rhythmic pace. Check on your body and mind – are you more relaxed and energized?
This slowing of pace can be transferred to eating, gardening, almost every activity imaginable.
Making pastry is a favourite example of mindfulness for me. It wasn’t until I slowed my pace, unhurriedly measured each ingredient, and methodically incorporated each ingredient at the right temperature and appropriate time that I was able to create a melt in your mouth pastry.
Mindfulness with its ancient or contemporary meanings is, I believe, certainly worthy of consideration and exploration in daily living.
Peace, health, love
Rev. Ettie
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[i] belonging
[ii] VU506
[iii] VU332 and VU567
[iv] John 17:21
[v] Consider how many accidents happen when persons are not mindful
May 21st, 2020 – Rev. Pamela
Worship space in my home office
This has been a strange few weeks for myself.
I think that I am in the rhythm of the new normal and am really grieving what once was. While I love working from home, I truly miss being at Gower. I miss the people, the hugs, the smiles and even all those meetings! I miss weekly meetings with Rebecca and Ettie, coffee with staff, music meetings with Doug, Circle Time with our children, coffee hour after worship, Thursday’s with Gwen in the office ….and all of that yummy Gower food!!
I miss my friends from Stella’s Circle who come to visit, have a cup of coffee, and say hi as I offer them a listening ear and some much needed pastoral care. I especially miss worshiping in our sanctuary, so much so that last week I needed to make a visit to the sanctuary to just sit and bathe in the essence of history, family and God’s spirit that lay beneath the walls. It was so strange being there and marking how much time we have not been together in that Holy Space. I could not have record worship last week without that sacred experience.
This week has started on a more positive note.
This time brings so many challenges for all of us. We are all in this storm together but we are not all in the same boat. Many of us have varied and different stresses which this time has brought forth. Some are eye opening and life changing, some are just nasty and painful! We will make it through!
Every two weeks we have a meeting of clergy across our province. It is a time of support but also information sharing. In our meeting this week I realized that we are a long way from worshiping together in the sanctuary. Sadness hit my heart again.
We had a special guest at our meeting this week, our Moderator, The Very Rev. Richard Bott. His words were inspiring and helped me to move beyond this phase I seem to be stuck.
I have learned that this time of COVID 19 had a beginning and it will have an ending, although right now none of us really know when that will be. We just have to hang in there-together.
We will change during this time. As we live through the in between moments of daily life in this pandemic there will be both positive and negative aspects of life and ourselves that will be uncovered.
These days I am asking myself, what will I take as learnings from this time?
What are the new possibilities I am moved to discern?
As a faith community we will ask ourselves, what are the new possibilities that we are moved to discern?
Even if we are doing worship in a different way presently, has it turned out to be a positive experience?
Can we ever go back to the way things used to be?
As a minister and as the people of Gower Street United Church we have a lot to discern. It will not be easy for myself. It will not be easy for us collectively. But I believe in the end it will make us stronger and more efficient and productive for our ministry after this period of COVID 19 has ended.
One thing I am constantly reminded during these days is that the message of the gospel, the Good News of Jesus Christ really remains the same. We are called to share God’s love as disciples of Jesus Christ. It is really that simple! We are finding ways to do this even though we are physically apart.
Thank you for all the emails and support during this time. As much as I grieve our being together I am comforted knowing that all of you are doing well, staying safe and that we are keeping connected in many different ways.
Please join the ministry team on Wednesday, June 3 at 10:30 for coffee and a chat, virtually…… We had a few laughs at the last coffee hour, enjoyed catching up on the news and seeing and conversing with one another. It helped to soften my “blues”!!
Many blessings,
Pamela
May 7th, 2020 – Rebecca
Two Questions I am Commonly asked
Growing up, I was actively involved in the church; I have always said it is part of my life. I really didn’t think much of it, when I started University, I tried a couple of different areas of studies including Social Work, Education and Political Science. None of them felt right though, all the while continually changing my major, I was taking religious studies courses and loving them! If that wasn’t enough I also began to increase my involvement at church, while I had always been active at St. James in the summer of 2009 I attended The Go Project with the youth at St. James. After that summer, if I wasn’t at school, I could pretty much be found at St. James; honestly, I also spent time watching TV at home.
Now, the truth would be I didn’t choose to attend the Go Project in the summer of 2009, my wonderful father signed me up to go as a leader. I was not a fan of the idea; I didn’t think I would be a good leader.
I was shy.
I had just turned nineteen.
I had no idea what I was doing.
Like always, though, my father knew what was right for me before I knew it myself. I have been involved with the Go Project in some way since the summer of 2009. It was on a Go Project that I learned what the Discernment Process was, which we now called Candidacy Pathways. It still took another year before I would start my own process. It was with the Go Project community and experiences that my call to ministry was found.
I always tell people I don’t have one of these call stories that are romantic or would make a good movie. For me, its just kind of always been like three things in life, family, friends and faith. The family will always come first, that’s how I was raised. The line between friends and faith can easily be lost entirely in my life but they always must be there. Even during some of the darkest times in my life, I was always drawn back to faith. Even when I questioned every event in my life, I still found myself needing those three elements.
I know that my life cannot be in any form of balance or feeling right without family, faith and friends.
This wasn’t really a choice I personally made. It is part of who I am just as much as I am daughter to my parents or a best friend to the girl I met in the kindergarten classroom.
So why ministry?
Ministry is where I belong, and it is where I have found my voice.
In my faith and in the United Church community, I discovered my calling, my vocation and most importantly my passion.
Why now?
Well this I know, the world is changing, our church needs to change with it. I want to be part of that change!
My faith has always been one where I have questioned. I probably question more then most people think a church leader should. I question because it is how I learn, it is how I have come to have the faith I have! In some way that I will never truly understand, I always get the answer, maybe not the answer I want, but the right answer.
I think this is the future, a community of faith that is
open to questions,
open to diversity,
that lives in constant growth.
I want to not only be part of that community but to be a leader in it because I know what it is like to be scare of the future, to feel lost, misunderstood and abandoned. I think our church communities some days are feeling these things. I want to help guide our communities to ask questions to grow and embrace. I know that the questions will get answered. There is greatness ahead for us all, as community and individuals, we just need to start asking the questions, embracing the growth that they bring!
April 30th, 2020 – Rev. Ettie
Journal Entry
I’ve chosen the title “journal entry” for my blog this week because, traditionally, journaling is personal and reveals our vulnerable side. We tend to write or journal in places not meant for other eyes. You may recall those five year diaries that were popular three or four decades ago, complete with lock and key – not that the lock or the key were very secure (so I learned when a brother opened one of my diaries). Still, it gave the user a sense of security. Allowing our vulnerability to be open for public view does not come easily. We like to put our best foot forward so others will see only our better or resilient side. Nonetheless, today I dare to share some recent journal entries written since the beginning of COVID-19.
Journal entry – March 13, 2020
On my way home this afternoon I contacted The Embalmers and Funeral Directors Board of Newfoundland and Labrador to inquire what measures would be enacted in funeral homes during this time of coronavirus for the safety of the bereaved as well as others participating in memorial services. The administrator indicated it had not been considered to this point but, it would be brought to the attention of the Board and would I put my concern in writing. An email was sent.
Journal entry – March 14, 2020
This afternoon, at an extraordinary meeting of the Church Board it was prayerfully and by consensuses decided that the better way forward for, at least the next two weeks, was to cancel all events in the interest of safety of our church family, staff, and our larger community.
Journal entry – March 15, 2020
Late this afternoon I received a response from the Administrator of The Embalmers and Funeral Directors Board informing me that funeral directors in NL were in conversation with their counterparts in other provinces and were working on some directives. Via email I shared some practices already in place around funeral and memorial services in our churches as a guide.
In mid March, it was disheartening to hear that persons tested positive to COVID-19 after attending a funeral at Caul’s funeral home and this may be the beginning of a cluster within our community.
Journal entry – April 17, 2020
Today, during my pastoral telephone visits, I talked with a man whose thoughts brought me to a greater awareness of the ways COVID-19 is influencing our spirituality and thoughts – perhaps fast forwarding us to talk of things we would bring to consciousness at another time or keep to ourselves and never speak aloud. Under ordinary circumstances these might be things we wished we had said to a loved one but put off until it was too late.
After the usual greeting of the phone call, my friend said “I’m ready.” From former visits I could imagine the sparkle and softness around his eyes as he spoke – his face always had a glow of inner contentedness. I responded, “Yes”. He continued, “I said goodbye to my daughter and son and all the things around me…”. We parted from our virtual visit with a prayer and a blessing. I could not help but reflect what a blessing God had given me, to be in the presence of such holiness – to be on holy ground.
Journal entry – April 22, 2020
This evening I find myself reflecting again on the universal truth contained in the sentiments of the man I visited five days ago. I thought, he is not the only ones harbouring such concerns. I, too, have wondered how things will unfold with relationships amongst family and friends – and shy away from that door. But the door is ajar now. I am glad for this encounter and the one who opened the way for this conversation. It was sincere, authentic, and coming from a place of love and concern. Now the door has been opened, I look forward to more opportunities in my own life to say those things that should never be put off.
Journal entry – April 24, 2020
Going to the supermarket was different today – the first time I’d been there for about three weeks. Markings on the floor and Plexiglas between the aisles – people wearing masks in abundance, carefully distancing except for two or three who came to the end of the aisle from the undesignated direction, quickly snatched what they wanted and left. And another two or three who could not wait behind the person in front of them and passed, thus defeating the accepted social distancing standard. While the shelves were well stocked with most items on my list, I did find interesting the things I could not find – red lentils, Thompson’s beans, and yeast – except for bread machine yeast.
While the supermarket was relatively uncongested, it still seemed crowded, and I pondered what it would be like to return to ”normal” with folk brushing against each other, reaching for the same product. It was, all in all, a stressful experience and one I vowed not to have very often.
I believe it is in times such as this that we experience the thin place[i] between the sacred and the everyday of humankind’s vulnerability and resilience – the stuff that Bible stories are made of.
Peace, health, love
Rev. Ettie
[i] In Celtic spirituality, other faith traditions, and Christianity as well it is a place where heaven and earth are perceived as nearer than usual.
April 24th, 2020 – Rev. Pamela
The Meaning of Simplicity
To live more simply is to live more purposefully and with a minimum of needless distractions-
Duane Elgin
In my time as the Anglican/United Chaplain at Memorial University I hosted a Winter Retreat each year at Burry Heights. It was a time of fun and laughter, friendship and learning that brought together many students from diverse backgrounds. We always invited a guest speaker. One particular year our guest speaker’s topic of interest for the retreat was Voluntary Simplicity.
The concept of simplicity, as a religious practice or philosophy of life has a long history. Its movement is attached to a practice or greater understanding of living a more simple life, a balance of the inner and outer life.
I can’t help but think during this time of COVID 19, we have all been forced into living simpler lives.
We are “stuck” in our homes with nothing to do but think, comtemplate, converse with our family, chat on the phone to stay connected and celebrate special occasions with the very simplest of renderings.
One of the things I am enjoying about this time of isolation is the ability to have time to really talk to my children, laugh at the table, watch movies together, go for drives and really live in the moment and be attentive. There are no distractions such as the time of meetings, lessons, sports practice, etc.
As the spring sets its feet in our midst I am looking forward to my garden and tending to my hydrangeas and roses….more than any other year since I started gardening! I even forgot until a few days ago that I had planted some bulbs in my front garden beds…I can’t wait for the snow to go so they will peep up through the ground.
It’s really hard work to try to live more simply. Our society is so used to busyness…of going here and there, picking up this and that and the only sign of stopping is flopping in your bed at the end of an exhausting day. For myself this “Voluntary Simplicity” contains elements of getting back to the basics and living the simple life, enjoying aspects of my life that I would normally take for granted.
I am even enjoying grocery shopping only every two weeks. I didn’t realize how many times a week I randomly drop into the supermarket to pick up something I “need?” I hope when we return to “normal,” daily living I don’t revert back to my old ways. I want to S-L-O-W D-O-W-N!!
In this time at home, have you been living a simpler life?
What does simplicity mean to you? What does it mean for your family?
These are some acts of simple living that can help your awareness….
Write a journal every day
Go for walks and drives
Set aside a time for daily meditation and prayer
Sit in silence for 10 minutes
Upon waking affirm priorities for the day
Spend some time each day observing nature
Make family dinners inviolable
Open your window early in the morning and listen to the birds chirping their melodious songs.
These days I’m enjoying and giving thanks for my simpler routine and way of living. While it has been forced upon us in this time of COVID 19, I believe it will teach us many lessons about our life, slowing down, paying attention and giving thanks to those things we often take for granted.
Below is a picture of myself (and Max!) in our backyard. A daily routine is shoveling this snow bank which never seems to become smaller! When it is gone I have to paint my shed, fix my rose trellis and hang again, and clean my flower beds…..I’m looking forward to the simple life of just that!
Stay Safe Everyone!
Peace and Blessings,
Rev. Pamela
April 16th, 2020 – Rebecca Pike
The Joy in Reading for Me!
I have been a student since I was five years old; I honestly do not really know what life without deadlines for papers or homework! With the program I am in now, the deadlines are a little different, but it is very individual directed learning that continues year-round, so I do not really get a summer break!
This is not to say I do not enjoy school, I very much do, but I really miss having the space for reading for myself! I love to read; it is something many in my family enjoy and has been instilled in me from a young age as something that is good to do! My current life though has limited my time for picking up a book to read for enjoyment. Most things are read for a paper or for a course.
I have had more free time lately since some of my courses have been cancelled, I have been able to read for pleasure!
One of the first things I picked up to read one evening weeks ago now is called “In Conclusion, Don’t Worry About It,” written by Lauren Graham. The book is an expansion on the commencement speech she gave to the high school in her hometown in 2017. In this short book, Graham reflects on growing up, pursuing dreams and living in the here and now.
I found myself really connecting with what Graham had to say about life and our constant strive for more. The main message to take away from her writing was the message that “Whatever path you choose, whatever career you decide to go after, the important thing is that you keep finding joy in what you’re doing, especially when the joy isn’t finding you.”
I was significantly impacted by this in a time when my life looks so different, then I expected it to right now. I looked at my life to see where there is joy, and I can still find joy. I am incredibly lucky that I can! In this reflection, though, I realized that if I let go of some of my worries, there would be space for more joy. So I am choosing to find time to let myself read for me more often because it is a joy that I need in my life!
So I wonder today, how are you finding joy at this time? What are the areas of your life that bring you joy? Do you need to adjust how much you worry?
April 7th, 2020 – Rev. Ettie Gordon-Murray
Hello friends,
As the posting of my blog happens to be 9 April 2020 which coincides with Maundy Thursday I prepared a ritual (see below) that we can participate in together while social distancing. I hope it will be meaningful for you as it has been for me to prepare and ponder how it might feel to share sacred time and a significant meal together while apart.
With that in mind I invite you also, if you can, to take pictures of the space you prepare and share them with me – through email rev.ettie@nl.rogers.com or as a hard copy when we can gather again. Those I receive I hope to combine in a collage and post it on Gower face book if that is workable.
May God’s blessings be with you and yours as our Lenten journey nears its destination and we prepare our hearts for the joy of Easter Day.
Rev. Ettie
An (at home) Ritual for Maundy Thursday (Holy Thursday)
in the time of COVID-19
Let us plan to gather together while apart at
4:30pm
Maundy Thursday
Thursday, April 9, 2020
Preparing Your Physical Space:
A table cloth or cloth napkin
Battery operated candle or tea light
A favourite plate(s) with bread or gluten-free crackers
A favourite glass(es) with juice/water
Quiet meditative music (if desired) that is not intrusive with prayer, singing or reading.(1)
When my table (space) is set I follow a ritual like the one below:
Look through the ritual
Choose the parts meaningful to you
If you feel called to make a substitute – do so
Locate other items like a Bible, or book that will complete your space
Mindfully arrange what you gather in your space in the mindset that you are preparing for a special meal with friends
Preparing Body and Mind
Now your physical setting is prepared – prepare body and mind…
A Ritual for you Alone and All of Us Together
Sit/recline comfortably (as you are able)
Finding your quiet center: Breathe slowly two or three times or more – listening to your breath as you inhale and exhale (you may find a big sigh or two come forth – let them go) – one or two more breaths and when ready allow yourself to settle into your space.
Read or sing VU 374 “Come and Find the Quiet Centre”
Come and find the quiet centre
in the crowded life we lead,
find the room for hope to enter,
find the frame where we are freed:
clear the chaos and the clutter,
clear our eyes, that we can see
all the things that really matter,
be at peace, and simply be.
Silence is a friend who claims us,
cools the heat and slows the pace,
God it is who speaks and names us,
knows our being, face to face,
making space within our thinking,
lifting shades to show the sun,
raising courage when we’re shrinking,
finding scope for faith begun.
In the Spirit let us travel,
open to each other’s pain,
let our loves and fears unravel,
celebrate the space we gain:
there’s a place for deepest dreaming,
there’s a time for heart to care,
in the Spirit’s lively scheming
there is always room to spare!
Invocation: Holy One, may we be aware that you are always our guest. In the Spirit of Christ may we especially sense your nearness, at this time, as we find ways to be together while apart.
Read the story: Matthew 26:26–30 Jesus shares his last meal with his disciples
While they were eating, Jesus took a loaf of bread, and after blessing it he broke it, gave it to the disciples, and said, ‘Take, eat; this is my body.’ Then he took a cup, and after giving thanks he gave it to them, saying, ‘Drink from it, all of you; for this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins. I tell you, I will never again drink of this fruit of the vine until that day when I drink it new with you in my Father’s kingdom.’
When they had sung the hymn, they went out to the Mount of Olives.
Visualization (remembering): Visualize meals you shared with family and friends – visualize the times you shared Communion at church with your church family – who sat beside you, behind, remember the scent of the grape juice, the music, the going forward, the meal, the blessing (spend some time imagining) – when ready light the candle, placing all those memories and your memory of Jesus’ story as he shared a meal with his friends into its light
When you are ready taste-eat the bread or gluten free crackers you prepared – ponder how things have changed since the list time you shared a sacred meal with your church family – taste-drink the juice/water – stay in the moment with the hope and anticipation of sharing the holy meal again with your church family…
Prayer: When ready pray a prayer that comes to your heart and mind or the following prayer
(composed by Rabbi Dr. Reuven P Bulka (2) & Archbishop Terrance Pendergast (3))
O God, We gather together separated by life-saving distancing,
but united more than ever in spirit;
We know we are in a war against COVID – 19 together, and the more together we are,
the better and stronger we will emerge:
We know the challenges are enormous, yet so are the opportunities;
That whether we are in isolation with loved ones, or alone,
we will have abundance of time;
We commit to using that time to the max, to help those in greater need in whatever way we can; We know we all have the opportunity, and time, to be life savers and life enhancers;
We give thanks for those who are on the front line taking care of those who are not well;
We give thanks for the researchers who are working at breakneck speed to find cure and vaccine;
We give thanks for our leaders, federal, provincial and local, for their dedication to all of us;
We give thanks for the providers of our daily needs who go to work in spite of the risk;
We give thanks for those who have ramped up their ability to produce life-saving supplies.
We pray for the well-being of all our life savers;
For those who are not well, that they recover fully;
For those enduring difficulty, that they may overcome their challenges.
We pray that a cure and vaccine will soon be available,
And that we all – family, friends, all Canadians, the entire world may be healed in body and spirit.
We ask you, O God, to bless our leaders, our front line care givers, our life savers and life enhancers.
We ask you, O God, to bless Canada, to bless the world, to bless everyone.
God of love, as we draw all of our prayers together – those spoken aloud and those we hold in our hearts – as children turn to a Mother who watches over them, let us turn to God saying:
Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be Thy name.
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive them that trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil:
for Thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory,
for ever and ever. Amen
Blessing:
May the loving presence of God embrace us; the Spirit of Christ attend to us the Holy Spirit strengthen us this evening as we move through the despair of Good Friday to the hope of Easter Sunday.
Notes:
(1) I choose a comfortable space – that differs from time to time, in the living room, at the dining/kitchen table – I do not mind a little clutter – I make space in the midst of it. I prepare as though it is a special family occasion being mindful of each action choosing items with care that speak to me.
(2) The Rabbi of Congregation Machzikei Hadas in Ottawa since 1967, and is now the Rabbi Emeritus.
(3) Archbishop Prendergast was named tenth Bishop and ninth Archbishop of Ottawa by Pope Benedict XVI on May 14, 2007. He was installed on June 26, 2007.
March 31st 2020 – Rev. Pamela
LUNCH BAGS…..I MISS YOU!!!!
Well…… I bet you never thought I would say this but here it is……
“I WISH I HAD A LUNCH TO PACK!!”
I know that most of you who have attended worship over the past year and a half will likely giggle when hearing this but it is true! I do wish I had a “normal” morning to get up and pack my kids lunch bags, wish them a good day at school, and give them my “mom” daily advice to “be kind and make good choices.”
These past few weeks have been strange and surreal. If you are anything like me you go through the motions of being fine, having anxiety, thinking the world is going to end and being fine again. I walk the streets in my neighborhood and everything is so still and airy, almost unreal. I am doing my best to stay positive and “be there” but this “new normal” is nothing like normal looks or feels. It just is NOT!!
We are all feeling many things these days. I trust you are all finding ways to cope. For myself I try to focus on work, be attentive to my children, phone people if I need to chat, get out for at least one walk a day with my dog Max, plan and cook something healthy for supper (with the help of my daughter Julia), take my older daughter Sophie for a driving lesson to get out of the house, check in and have a chat with my son Nathan and have more serious discussions about COVID-19 and our current reality with my husband Scott.
If this time has done anything for me it has brought me back to realize what I have taken for granted…..going for a coffee at my favorite coffee shop, game nights with my brother and his family, trips to Gambo Pond with our usual road side “pit stops,” dropping into the supermarket whenever I felt like I needed something, twacking in my favorite store because “I’m bored!,” a sail out the bay and the smell and feel of the fresh, crisp salt water, and a simple spontaneous…”it’s Friday night ……let’s go out for supper…” There are so many more…You have your own that I am sure you could list. All of these things are post “stay at home” orders from our government and health authorities. I grieve them daily.
The current economic climate from this time continues to be a critical unstable part of many of our lives.
Each day though I endeavor to be positive and have at least one thing I intentionally am grateful for in my “new” way of living. It is not easy but for my mental health and my well-being I need to do this. I encourage you to do the same.
I do know that God is walking with us through all of this….through the uncertainty, the pain, the unknowing, the anxiety, the grief, the moments of pleasure, gratefulness, joy and even death.
God is with us in the midst of it all!
I am so looking forward to our gathering together again in our beautiful sanctuary (I’ll add that to one of those things I have taken for granted!). We will celebrate with a parade of butterflies. I can’t wait!
Below is a picture of the amazing sunset in Holyrood. I took the picture on a sail back from Brigus. Our last “sail of the season” in late September. When I find myself having a “bad” day I think back to this time and it makes my heart happy and my thoughts warm and cozy. It has become my visual mantra for this difficult time.
Please send me a note, a picture and let me know how you are doing. I would love to hear from you.
Take Care of yourselves and be safe!
Blessings and love,
Rev. Pamela
March 24th 2020 – Rebecca Pike
Spiritual Practices
In October of 2019, I attended a course for my schooling that was exploring spiritual practices. Throughout the course, we looked at the role of spiritual practices both for ourselves and for congregations. Since the circle, I had to complete a thirty-day exercise with spiritual practice and complete a reflection on this experience. This circle and the exercise reminded me of how important it is for all members of a faith community to be living our faith daily! It is also key to this living of our faith that we be honest with ourselves.
So here are two of my key learning from this experience:
A. I need to allow myself the freedom to try new practices, knowing I may not like them, but accepting that as okay.
B. Spiritual practice is personal and individual, while it is often done in the community. Each experience is personalized. I wanted to offer some space in this entry to allow you to reflect on these questions and share some possible practices you could try during this time.
With my learning in mind, I wanted to offer some space in this entry to allow you to reflect on these questions and share some possible practices you could try during this time.
Questions for Reflection:
1. What is your experience with practicing something?
2. Do you have anything you consider a spiritual practice? What are your current spiritual practices?
3. How do your practices connect with a broader community?
Practices ideas:
Spiritual practices are habits and experiences that are designed to develop, grow and strengthen certain qualities of spirit; similarly, an exercise routine is a set of patterns that help us care for our body. Spiritual practices help to develops one’s character, no matter their age, and expand the range of one’s inner life structure. They are workouts that train our souls. The final thought I want to leave you with is that just like our bodies need care and exercise, so does our spirit.
March 11th 2020 – Rev. Ettie Gordon-Murray
Civility
Recently, CEOs and leadership teams in various work places have been leading discussions about civility. When I heard this, I thought what does this say about human interactions in the work place?
Following one such event (while posting cards on a wall) containing civility awareness quotes a team leader asked me “What does civility mean to you?”
My response was to give an example of what it is not – an incident I witnessed amongst neighbours. One neighbour was heard to belligerently speak to a snow machine operator about leaving a track of snow on the sidewalk – not a reasonable response to something that could not be helped. Civility?
Interesting how our brains work – that was the first thing that came to mind when I thought about civility in that moment. Upon reflection, however, it occurred to me that Jesus had something to say about civility when he said “love your neighbour as yourself.” I made my placard for the wall…
February 24th 2020 – Rev. Pamela
Sailing on the bay
Sabbath Keeping
“Sabbath is a way of living, not a thing to have or a list to complete. By observing it we become people who work and rest, and know why, when and how we do either.We also recognize the occasions on which we do both at the same time. We know how to pray, how to be still, how to do nothing. Sabbath people know that “our” time is really God’s time, and we are invited to live in it. We are living our eternity now-Tuesday and Wednesday, this Saturday and Sunday.”
Donna Schaper
At various points on my life’s journey I have sought the guidance of spiritual counselors. While serving on the Hillview Pastoral Charge I was regularly meeting with a spiritual counselor here in the city. She gifted me a small book that I use regularly. It’s called “Sabbath Keeping.”
….Sabbath Keeping……
Life is busy and hectic. I am keenly aware of the need for Sabbath keeping because everywhere I go society continually urges me to go faster, to do more, to stretch myself in a million ways…..
My credentials for knowing this are purely domestic.
We are a family of 6; 2 adults, 3 teenage children and one dog……..I have many roles in my life; mom, wife, household engineer and minister!
My spiritual counselor recommended that I continue to find ways to hear more deeply God’s message to slow down. Yet like many others in our culture I continually hear the opposite message. I know I am not alone.
Keeping Sabbath contributes directly to our overall wellness. Yet, Sabbath keeping is hard to do!
Being intentional about walking, prayer, singing, gardening, worship – and to do so with a discipline and vigor that keeps play and praise in one’s life is hard work.
Sabbath keeping is a spiritual strategy: it’s a kind of marital arts. The world’s commands are weighted and we often respond with light moves. The world says work: we play. The world says go fast; we go slow. These light moves carry Sabbath into our days, and God into our lives.
Our culture urges us to believe we need more. In fact we need less.
And that is the “catch” line of Sabbath keeping….more is less.
Keeping Sabbath is a conscious choice to restrict input. It is a conscious decision not to work in all the available time, but to intentionally relax, play, do NOTHING, in some of the time we have. Keeping Sabbath is a method for focus, rest, and play. The alternative is a life filled with scatteredness, fatigue, and continuous work.
Most of us spend a good part of our lives worrying about things that really do not matter. We get to the end, tired and worn and wonder…….was it really worth all that? Or maybe we get to “the end” of a particular road and are too frazzled to even think straight.
Keeping Sabbath means saying no to a scripting of our life that is without play or rest or grace.
I have a sense that those who were forced to stop during the recent Snowmaggeden experienced a profound week of Sabbath keeping. We were forced to rest and play, to notice and experience those things that we are often too busy to engage. We truly “lived in the moment.”
We were forced to STOP.
And……………. REST.
And …………………….PAUSE.
And …………………………..NOTICE.
Life stood still and we were moved into a Sabbath time.
Sabbath is setting aside time for God to grow into our being. For centuries religious institutions obeyed God’s commandment to remember the Sabbath day and keep it holy by making one day a week, a Saturday or Sunday, “God’s time.”
How do you keep Sabbath?
Some attend worship on Sunday…. that is their Sabbath time for the week. Others choose to take a walk in the park, enjoy a long bath, read a book, savour a cup of tea with a good friend, garden, ski….. Some who are really serious about Sabbath Keeping do all of the above and more.
Ultimately saying yes to Sabbath means that we say “yes” to a life that is grounded in God’s grace.
Then we receive more than we could ever have imagined of rest and play. For Sabbath keeping allows us a time to love ourselves.
How are you Sabbath Keeping?